This forum is a lot better maintained and moderated than immigration.ca and vBulleitn is way nicer too!
I never really introduced myself over on the other site, or here, so I might as well
My first name is Steve. I live and work in Winnipeg (Winterpeg). I work for a pharmaceutical company here. I met my beautiful wife online, on June 13 2007. I had tried "e-lationships" before with no real success when one day, a friend of mine in my Mandarin Chinese class suggested I try a Chinese dating site. You know what they say about the best way to learn a language.
All I can say is things clicked very quickly. I flew to China to be with her in Feb of 2008. We travelled to Hong Kong together and spen a bunch of time in her city with her family and friends. I could not believe the fireworks we had
It progressed so well and so fast that I asked her to marry me in March. I went back to China again in May and June and we were happily married. We finish each other's sentences and we seem to almost have a psychic connection for understanding each other's feelings and thoughts.
I was considering staying in China with her instead of coming back to Canada, but the requirement of money we needed to get started on our life together required me to go back home and continue working. I may still go back if we get rejected. My only worry is the length of our courtship, 11 months from meeting until married. I was the agressor in this though. I really feel she is the one and there was no need to wait.
Oh well. That is more about me! I want to start posting more here
It's great to hear your story :)
My husband and I married about 14 months after we met. I moved in with him 10 months after we met, I never considered this would be an issue. Hmm.
Well anyway, nice to meet ya and good luck with your app!
I've never seen statistics, but I'd venture a wild guess most of us applying/applied and are finished probably had what most people would call a fast court ship.
My wife and I were living together 6 months after meeting and married 13 months after our first meeting.
My husband and I were married after three years of dating long distance, a looong three years. It was another 8 months before we were actually living together.
It took us 10 years to finally marry, and while I did spend eight months in Canada previously, it would take another year before we began to live together permanently.
I guess that's what happens when you meet up in high school, and it takes a while for your to undertake the financial and emotional horrors of immigration, among other things.
I guess we're one of the "old" school group in that - while we met online - we didn't meet in person for almost 2.5 years and it was another 3 years or so after that when we moved in together
All told we're going on 10 years since we met online (I wanna celebrate that day...lol) but we were so integrated into each other's lives that most people who meet us (now) think we've "been together" forever...lol
We were the same way. It took us three years to finally meet, and then the next meeting happen three years after that, then another three years after that, and then we finally moved in after a year of marriage last year. But everyone knew about our relationship, so when I finally got up here to Prince Rupert, it was like I was already a part of their lives. I never felt out of place, which is wonderful!
DerbyGirl Wrote:I guess we're one of the "old" school group in that - while we met online - we didn't meet in person for almost 2.5 years and it was another 3 years or so after that when we moved in together
All told we're going on 10 years since we met online (I wanna celebrate that day...lol) but we were so integrated into each other's lives that most people who meet us (now) think we've "been together" forever...lol
DerbyGirl Wrote:I guess we're one of the "old" school group in that - while we met online - we didn't meet in person for almost 2.5 years and it was another 3 years or so after that when we moved in together
All told we're going on 10 years since we met online (I wanna celebrate that day...lol) but we were so integrated into each other's lives that most people who meet us (now) think we've "been together" forever...lol
We first 'met' (became members of the same website) online in October 2000. We started talking one-on-one in May 2003, and met in person in October 2003. We got married in October 2006, so you're not the only ones who took a while. :)
Us, too. We met online in Sept 2002, in a divorce support discussion forum, and our connection was instantaneous. We really felt like we lived the same life, just 3000 miles and a border apart. We talked for eleven months before he finally flew to meet me . . . and like mr_without_his_mrs, when the day finally came that we were face to face, everything else literally disappeared. We, too, could not believe the fireworks! What we had was more real than any single moment of the 20+ years both of us had spent in our first marriages.
For the next 16 months we maintained a long distance relationship, one or the other of us traveling a total of 14 times across country and border to be together . . . sometimes for a few weeks, sometimes only for a weekend. After his divorce went to the Courts to be finalized in late 2004, I came to Canada for the Holidays and we were going to get married just after the first of the year. And then the ex found out - and since the Court was already asking for documents that she and her attorney had neglected to submit with the final paperwork, she simply refused to turn them over. Due to incompetent lawyers on both sides, their divorce was stalled for 21 months and Immigration Canada separated us. We were finally able to marry just a week short of the 4th anniversary of our online meeting . . . that was two and a half years ago now and we're as close as ever.
And you guys know the rest of the story.
My husband and I met online about three years before we actually met up in person and started dating as well. The waiting makes it special :)
I don't know how you all survived waiting all that time! My husband and I are both sort of "instant gratification" people so there is no way in hell we would have been able to wait any longer than we did. :P
how deep a connection and how well we hit it off in person was a big driver for me. I never thought I could find someone so totally perfect as my wife in such a short time. I didn't see any point in waiting.
I consider myself supremely lucky to have found the woman of my dreams at 24.
CIC will likely reject us because of the brevity of development, but so what. I love China, and a life there is equally palatable for me. I lose weight every time I go there do to the presence of CHEAP nutritious foods and a lot of time outdoors due to the great weather in southern China. Plus I am a ridiculous xenophile and new languages and cultures interest me supremely. I LOVE it when my wife speaks in Chinese. It motivates me to study more. Learning each other's languages is an experience I treasure sharing with her
For us it was called...life...LOL
Can't always just pick up & go on vacation 3,200 miles away
Work, family commitments, etc
It "seems" as though those of us who "waited" (for lack of a better word) are typically ...ummmm - more mature? (read: older..haha)
I think that might have something to do with older folks are more likely to have family & work commitments (plus maybe be more cautious?)
I'm not saying that younger folks don't have those same things - but typically the younger you are, the less likely it is that you have kids & "stable" jobs - I know when I was younger - way younger - that the type of jobs I was doing - it was no bid deal if they wouldn't give me a month off, I'd take it anyways & find another job when I came back type of deal
Doesn't matter how I say this - I'm sure it's going to irk someone :)
I think you get the idea of what I'm trying to say though
ktn048 Wrote:I don't know how you all survived waiting all that time! My husband and I are both sort of "instant gratification" people so there is no way in hell we would have been able to wait any longer than we did. :P
DerbyGirl Wrote:For us it was called...life...LOL
Can't always just pick up & go on vacation 3,200 miles away
Work, family commitments, etc
It "seems" as though those of us who "waited" (for lack of a better word) are typically ...ummmm - more mature? (read: older..haha)
I think that might have something to do with older folks are more likely to have family & work commitments (plus maybe be more cautious?)
I'm not saying that younger folks don't have those same things - but typically the younger you are, the less likely it is that you have kids & "stable" jobs - I know when I was younger - way younger - that the type of jobs I was doing - it was no bid deal if they wouldn't give me a month off, I'd take it anyways & find another job when I came back type of deal
Doesn't matter how I say this - I'm sure it's going to irk someone :)
I think you get the idea of what I'm trying to say though
I agree with you 100%. I don't really have any connections, children, or other time heavy family commitments (sick parents, etc.) So it is rather easy to pull up stakes. I guess it depends on what stage of life you are in when you meet your partner. :)
DerbyGirl Wrote:For us it was called...life...LOL
Can't always just pick up & go on vacation 3,200 miles away
Work, family commitments, etc
It "seems" as though those of us who "waited" (for lack of a better word) are typically ...ummmm - more mature? (read: older..haha)
I think that might have something to do with older folks are more likely to have family & work commitments (plus maybe be more cautious?)
I'm not saying that younger folks don't have those same things - but typically the younger you are, the less likely it is that you have kids & "stable" jobs - I know when I was younger - way younger - that the type of jobs I was doing - it was no bid deal if they wouldn't give me a month off, I'd take it anyways & find another job when I came back type of deal
Doesn't matter how I say this - I'm sure it's going to irk someone :)
I think you get the idea of what I'm trying to say though
Oh yeah I get what you mean.
I did have a great job before I moved to Canada, which was one of the reasons we originally planned to have Cody move to the States, but in the end I knew Canada was the best place for us and my job wasn't more important than the chance to start over in a better place.
Neither of us had kids or anything else holding us back, and I guess you could say we were a tad immature in thinking I would come here and life would be amazing, but it worked out anyway :)